Numbers. (aka Will Y'all Actually Calm Yourselves Down)

I don't even know if I'm going to post this. But hey, it's my blog. So deal.

I hate when people shame other bloggers for "doing it just for the numbers".

Or say "Never concentrate on the numbers. They don't matter. You're bad if you concentrate on the numbers, because that's not what blogging's about."

Well, I have a confession to make.

I really like the numbers.

In fact, I bet only a couple of bloggers on here actually don't care about the numbers at all. Some may care about it less than others, but the fact is, there are probably only a very few of us who don't care at all.

Now, the numbers aren't all of why I love this. In fact, the majority is simply because I love blogging. But a large part of it is because I like getting new followers. I love getting feedback and comments on my posts, and I like it when I get over 100 or 200 pageviews in 24 hours - it makes my day!

People aren't horrible for getting excited over a couple new followers or a post they did that was super popular. And I feel like a lot of people may feel scared to say they actually enjoy the numbers because they're afraid the entire community is going to call them out and say they're "selfish" or "feeling too entitled".

Well, here's the deal.

If you lose some followers, it's okay to get upset. Maybe not upset at the unfollowers personally, but generally upset that you now have x less followers.

If you gain a ton of new followers, it's okay to get excited.

If you get an unusually large amount of comments on a post, it's okay to have a mini party with your best friend over iMessage. (Heck, that's what I do.)

If you don't get as many comments as you usually do, it's okay to feel confused or disappointed (once again, not disappointed in specific people, but about the situation in general).

And y'all who like to call others out for only "focusing on the numbers"? Take a chill pill. I get if they don't care about content or relationships at all and are only out to spam their way into fame, but if it's someone who genuinely likes blogging and finds the numbers part - not all - of that, actually calm down. What they care about and their feelings about blogging are no business of yours, besides which you could hurt them, make them wonder if they're a bad person or doing something "wrong".

And, of course, it is unhealthy to concentrate solely on the numbers sometimes. But you shouldn't tell someone who really loves blogging and who also maybe got a little excited over a bunch of new followers they got that they're being "unhealthy" or "a bad person" or "they shouldn't continue this mentality".

So yeah. In conclusion, it's okay to care about the numbers. I do, and you shouldn't feel ashamed if you do the same.

Namarië,
Ellie

18 comments:

  1. Yes, Ellie, I have a mini party when I get a new follower too.

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  2. THANK YOU
    THANK YOU FOR THIS
    And yeah, I care about the numbers too. The whole blogging experience is great, and I genuinely love blogging, its not all that, but it's fun to get excited about the numbers and comments and things. (and iMessage parties with friends are great)

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    1. WELCOME.
      WELCOME LOVE.
      IKR. You just summarized everything I was trying to say in two sentences.
      Especially when the cheesecake (I think it's a cheesecake? It's some slice of cake, anyway) emoji is involved. No party is a party without cake.

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  3. BLESS YOU.

    i really needed to hear this, as i did get very upset when i lost seven followers in three days. but i didn't want to admit to that fully, as i know there are so many other bloggers that would declare me a bad person for actually caring.

    and what i don't understand is how people are like "i don't care about the followers, i care about you guys!!1!" because um...well, you see here, your followers are typically the people you care about most. am i the only one that thinks that?

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    1. And with good reason. That's a lot of followers, especially for this platform, in an extremely short amount of time. You were fine to be upset. All of those people need to keep their yappers shut.
      Oh my goodness, people say that??? That makes absolutely no sense. Who the heck do you think you're talking to? An army of invisible mandroids? Yes, because you most certainly prize those invisible, man-eating mandroids over your followers.
      I guess people are probably trying to say that they care about the followers who care about them/stick with them/in some cases suck up to them and never call them out on shit, but they don't care about the "unloyal" followers who will unfollow if they find something they don't like. But, you see, I think all followers are equal. Because all followers are people, and all people are people.
      (if you read this far and understood anything of what I was saying at all congrats you officially get an award. xD)

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  4. ELLIE. I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH.
    My blog isn't super popular. Oh well! *shrugs* What can I do? Change my personality to make others happy. Hell no. So I tend to get excited when my things are popular/I get a new follower. I just really feel it is genuinely acceptable to be happy when your work has paid off.

    ~J

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    1. THAT MY FRIEND IS LITERALLY SO TRUE. YOUR MENTALITY IS EXACTLY WHAT I TRY TO EMULATE OH MY GOD.
      I agree.

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  5. Even getting comments makes me extremely happy. People hack up Nuggets of Approval and I do a little squealy dance and hoard them all. They are as precious to me as the ring is to gollum.
    Again I am wishing that you could put images in comments because I drew that exact scenario with gollum in my glasses and hair atop a pile of Nuggets of Approval. I need to make a post about that next.

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    1. SAME SAME SAME.
      YOU MUST. That drawing sounds epic.

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  6. I literally can not thank you enough for putting this into words. <3

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  7. When I first started blogging I was always like "How many page-views did I get today?" Now I'm more excited about getting comments and new followers! It always makes my day, I don't think it's being selfish- just being proud to accomplish something spectacular.

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  8. We all have mini iMessage parties. xD

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  9. I agree yet disagree at some points with this it's a bit weird xD I love it when I gain followers, it makes me so happy but I don't care as much when I lose them, maybe someone just followed me to get a follow back and I didn't follow back. I used to care so much about page views but now I don't care anymore, I used to be careful about how much I posted so people would see it but now I don't anymore. I do throw mini parties when I get loads of comments, that makes me happy but when I don't, I don't really care. So I'm like half and half with you here :) My thing is, as long as you aren't blogging for fame and for readers, I think that's good.

    ~Noor

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    1. That's a good mentality - caring about the positive and disregarding the negative.
      Yup, I agree. As long as you aren't shaming the people who care about the negative or aren't blogging just to get famous, it's fine.

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